192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation)

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Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

Shawna Scafe, Professional Counsellor

206 episodes

4 days ago

When the clutter, motherhood, relationships, and life seem too overwhelming. When you have resentment and frustration every day - this is a sign you have been living on auto-pilot- letting life happen to you instead of living it ON PURPOSE. I’ve been there. Three kids under 4 and I decided to declutter my home and realized I was living my whole life on autopilot. I wanted more. I wanted to take action, be more present, have more fun! Enjoy my kids! I’m Shawna, You might know me as your Nerdy Girlfriend. I am a Certified Coach Practitioner, a Transformational Life Coach, and Registered Professional Counsellor-Candidate (RPC-C). I use the Enneagram, Faith and CBT as tools in my life coaching approach. I teach moms around the world the tools they need to set values and vision for the 9 areas of their lives so they can take the right steps towards living life ON PURPOSE. Find my books, course and blog at simpleonpurpose.ca

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192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation)

Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

17 minutes 14 seconds

1 year ago

192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation)

We live in an audience-performer culture it is hard to know which decisions we are making for ourselves and which ones we are making for others. What you buy differently, how would you spend your time differently, how would you be differently without feeling like the world is watching?

In this episode:

* The song that started it all: "Who Are You When I'm Not Looking" by Blake Shelton
* How hard it can be to 'play' as an adult

* 126. The Joy of Being Mediocre (hobby without the hustle)
* Doing things for an outcome

* Fashion, identity, and societal influences

* Simple style posts (capsule wardrobes, 30for30 challenge, dressing your age)
* Spending habits

* The Audience-Performer culture of social media

* Influencers in the wild (article on it here)
* What is sacred vs what is for sharing online
* Our lives as content, for external validation and approval

* Being part of society, while also being ourselves

* 188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (How Online Communities Impact Your Motherhood Experience)
* Being valuable and fitting in

* Learning self-definition through the reflection of others

* Moving from external validation to internal validation
* 134. Do you typecast your kids? (Labels + how they impact our parenting and our kids)

* Women and beauty standards of our culture

* What does it mean to be a woman when no one is looking?

* Making decisions that are true to you and your passions and preferences, how to get started in small ways

* Validating the little things for yourself

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Full transcript (unedited)
0:10
Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simpler purpose podcast. Around here we talk about ways to simplify your home, your heart and your life. So my aim is to help us all slow down, quiet the noise,