<p><strong>Description:</strong><br />Are you tired of feeling like you have to be “good” to be loved? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with self-worth &amp; confidence coach <strong>Rosie Milsom</strong> to explore the <em>good girl archetype</em> — why so many women fall into it, the hidden costs of staying there, and how to reclaim your voice, worth, and true self.</p><p>From childhood conditioning to chronic people-pleasing, we dive deep into how these patterns form, why they’re so hard to break, and the science behind nervous system regulation for lasting change. You’ll leave this episode with the tools, insights, and inspiration to step out of performance mode and start living fully as YOU.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:</strong></p><ul><li><p>The 3 masks of the good girl: Pleaser, Prover, Performer</p></li><li><p>Why people-pleasing is a survival strategy, not a flaw</p></li><li><p>The hidden physical and emotional costs (including <em>allostatic load</em>)</p></li><li><p>How to differentiate self-worth from confidence</p></li><li><p>Practical steps to start breaking free — without guilt</p></li><li><p>How neuroscience and polyvagal theory support authentic living</p><p><br /></p></li></ul><p><strong>⏱️ CHAPTERS:</strong><br />00:00 – Welcome &amp; Introduction<br />01:17 – Rosie’s Journey: From Nonprofit Work to Coaching<br />05:05 – What Is the “Good Girl” Archetype?<br />08:45 – How Society Rewards &amp; Shapes the Good Girl<br />14:34 – The Hidden Costs of Self-Silencing<br />20:28 – The Science: Allostatic Load &amp; Chronic Stress<br />27:19 – The 3 Masks of the Good Girl<br />33:42 – Breaking the Pattern: Awareness &amp; Self-Discovery<br />39:12 – Self-Worth vs. Confidence<br />43:01 – The Nervous System’s Role in Authentic Living<br />49:12 – Rosie’s Transformative Core Belief<br />54:32 – Final Message: You Don’t Have to Earn Your Worth<br />55:32 – How to Connect with Rosie<br />56:26 – Closing &amp; Next Steps</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>📌 CONNECT WITH ROSIE MILSOM</strong><br />Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/rosie_milsom_coaching" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@rosie_milsom_coaching</a><br />Free Quiz – <em>Find Your Hidden Confidence Block</em>: <a href="https://rosiemilsom.scoreapp.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://rosiemilsom.scoreapp.com</a></p><p><br /></p><p><strong>📌 CONNECT WITH SAMMY STOLTZ</strong><br />Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/shine.in.andout" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@shine.in.n.out</a><br />Website: <a href="shineinandoutcoaching.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Shine In &amp; Out</a><br />Podcast: <em>Shine In &amp; Out</em> on all major platforms</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>💬 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going</strong><br />If this episode resonated with you, comment below with your biggest takeaway and share it with a friend who needs to hear this message.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>👍 LIKE</strong> this video<br /><strong>🔔 SUBSCRIBE</strong> for more science-meets-soul conversations<br /><strong>📩 SHARE</s