In this episode, Safiya and I dive into one of the most misunderstood patterns in high achievers: the subconscious drive to get it “just right” as a way to feel in control, worthy, and safe.
We explore how perfectionism isn’t really about doing things perfectly. It’s about protection. When you grow up learning that love or stability depended on being good, quiet, or high-performing, your subconscious mind learns to equate “getting it right” with survival.
Together, we unpack how perfectionism can look like strength, ambition, or discipline on the surface, while underneath it’s fueled by fear of rejection, failure, or disappointing others.
From family dynamics and cultural conditioning to the nervous system’s response to mistakes, this conversation shines light on how deeply perfectionism is wired into our stories and how to begin rewriting it so you can rest, release control, and live with more ease.
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