In this episode of She Talks Money, I sit down with the incredible Valerie Rubin, founder of Freedom with Valerie, for a deep, honest conversation about anxious attachment and how it silently shapes so much of our self-worth, relationships, and decision-making.

Valerie walks me through the emotional and biological roots of anxious attachment, and how somatic therapy—from EFT tapping to brain spotting to vagus nerve work—can help us regulate, heal, and move toward secure relating.

She also opens up about her own powerful journey healing from trauma and chronic pain, and shares real, practical tools to help high-achieving women (like so many of us) stop people-pleasing and start owning their voice, needs, and worth.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re earning love or stuck in anxiety around relationships, this episode is for you. Let’s rewrite the story together.

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