How do you keep your heart soft when students you poured into walk away from the faith? In this episode of The Shaping Student Ministry Podcast, John and Ian have a raw, pastoral conversation about the deep grief many student pastors carry, especially when students who once seemed “all in” lose their way. They talk through the emotional weight of those moments, how to grieve well, and how to keep showing up with hope instead of bitterness. This isn’t about blaming ourselves or others. It’s about guarding our hearts with the truth of God’s Word and staying faithful to the call, even when the fruit is hard to see. Inside the Episode Why it hurts so deeply when students walk away Paul’s example of grieving without giving up Why emotional maturity matters in ministry You are not the hero—God brings the growth Questions to ask when the grief feels heavy How to walk in hope, not cynicism Join The Community: https://www.shapingstudentministry.com/pricing-plans/checkout-1?planId=bdf7472e-3f3d-46f9-8d7e-08c08d9477fe&checkoutFlowId=43925d45-8efd-40df-b69d-cbbe7f873a47