In this episode, Dzika Gangaidzo and Nono Bokete dive into the messy, familiar world of self-sabotage - the kind that whispers “you’re not ready” just when things are finally lining up.
They break down where it really comes from, how it hides in everyday behaviours, and why sometimes we’re more afraid of success than failure.
With their usual mix of honesty, humour, and hard truths, Dzika and Nono explore the psychology behind self-sabotage - think fear, perfectionism, and all the societal scripts we didn’t ask for but somehow memorised. They also share practical tools to shift your mindset and remind listeners that the journey to growth doesn’t have to be solo.
It’s reflective, refreshing, and the kind of conversation that might just make you say, “Oh… so it’s not just me.”
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Takeaways:
Self-sabotage manifests as missed opportunities and procrastination.
Fear of success can be as paralyzing as fear of failure.
Imposter syndrome often leads to self-sabotaging behaviors.
Education can condition us to feel unworthy without certain qualifications.
Experience is often more valuable than formal education.
Recognizing triggers is crucial in combating self-sabotage.
Positive affirmations can help rewire negative self-talk.
The 'five-minute rule' can help overcome resistance to starting tasks.
Community support can provide accountability and encouragement.
Self-sabotage is not a sign of weakness but outdated wiring.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Self-Sabotage Overview
02:24 Understanding Self-Sabotage: Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Success
05:25 The Role of Education and Experience in Overcoming Self-Sabotage
11:47 Listener Story: Tinashe's Experience with Self-Sabotage
14:07 Personal Reflections on Self-Sabotage
18:53 Tools for Overcoming Self-Sabotage
30:24 The Importance of Community and Accountability
34:44 Final Takeaways and Call to Action