When "Support" is Present But You Still Feel Alone

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Shades of Strong® | From “Strong Black Woman” to Supported Black Woman

Shirl

232 episodes

3 days ago

The Shades of Strong® podcast is your weekly invitation to stop carrying it all alone.
Hosted by Shirl — the friend who sees through your “I’m fine” mask and gently says, “Let’s talk about it” — this space is for Black women ready to redefine what strength looks like and finally feel supported.
Through honest storytelling, soul-stirring conversations, and the Support Languages™ framework, we unpack what the “Strong Black Woman” trope has cost us, and explore what support can actually look like in real life.
If you’ve been doing the most, feeling unseen, and wondering when it’s your turn to exhale… you’re in the right place.
This is where every shade of strong is welcome — and every Black woman is seen, heard, and held.

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When "Support" is Present But You Still Feel Alone

Shades of Strong® | From “Strong Black Woman” to Supported Black Woman

7 minutes 6 seconds

1 month ago

When "Support" is Present But You Still Feel Alone

So earlier this week I talked about what it feels like when you don’t have anybody to reach for. But what about when folks are around — and you still feel alone? That’s a whole different kind of grief.
This episode is about that space. The space where people love you, but they don’t really see you. Where the help is supposed to be there… but somehow, you’re still carrying it all.
If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “Why does no one notice how much I’m holding?” — this one’s for you.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

What Being Seen feels like when it’s missing
How to stop swallowing that quiet grief
Real talk about what support really requires

Resources to Support You:

* Schedule a 1:1 Support Session
* Get the Guide: "You Know Your Support Language—Now What?"
* Take the Support Language Quiz. and learn how you actually receive support best.
* Get Support Right in Your Inbox: Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders every week

Let’s Stay Connected:

* Subscribe to Shades of Strong on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform
* Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one
* Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space
* Join Shades of Strong on Substack for deeper convos that don’t always make it to the mic
* Follow Shades of Strong on Instagram for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted
* Be a Guest on the Show
* www.shadesofstrong.com

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