In this Q&A, Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener queries related to "work spouses", dealing with a partner who refuses to go to therapy and "love tattoos":

"My husband has a coworker who introduced herself to me as his work wife. I didn't even know how to respond. When I talked to him about it, he said she was just kidding around. I think it's inappropriate. He says it's no big deal. Who is right?"

"What do you do if your partner refuses; to go to therapy - but the relationship is on the rocks? Asking for a friend."

"I just turned 18, and I've been dating a guy - who is a few years older than me. He comes from money, so hw's shown me a lot of things I've never seen before. It has only been a few months, and he wants me to get a matching tattoo. What should I do?"

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Episode 339

Candid Conversations: Managing the 'Work Spouse' and Therapy Avoidance

[00:00:00] You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight.

[00:00:15] Brandon Ware: Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your cohost, Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, how are you doing?

[00:00:22] Jess O'Reilly: I'm good. I can see that you're putting on a brave face. I am putting on a brave face.

[00:00:26] Jess O'Reilly: You know how I know you're having a date.

[00:00:29] Brandon Ware: How? What's my tell? What's my tell? Is it Terry's?

[00:00:33] Jess O'Reilly: It's your, it's your left peck. It's my left peck. It's your left peck. It's that I saw the app from your ring on your phone and your stress was way up at the top.

[00:00:42] Brandon Ware: So I have an Aura ring and it monitors all your vitals and they just released a stress feature.

[00:00:48] Brandon Ware: I'm stressed out today.

[00:00:49] Jess O'Reilly: Yeah, left peck going hard.

[00:00:51] Brandon Ware: I feel like some people need to talk it out with somebody other than me.

[00:00:55] Jess O'Reilly: So I think so many of us run into this. I'm not going to obviously speak specifically about your situation. I know what's going on, but I think that sometimes you have people in your lives.

[00:01:05] Jess O'Reilly: Whether they be friends, or clients, or co workers, or just people in your family, who, they have their own anxiety, and they try and attenuate that anxiety through you. And I don't mean they're dumping their problems on you, but they may be actually, in your case, they are actually saying, here are my problems, fix them, even though you can't.

[00:01:25] Jess O'Reilly: But, They expect you to kind of jump and dance and twist and twirl around their anxiety as though their urgency is your emergency.

[00:01:36] Brandon Ware: Ooh, that's a good one. I have heard that before, but their urgency is my emergency. Yes.

[00:01:40] Jess O'Reilly: I think it's Luna who I first heard say that.

[00:01:42] Brandon Ware: Was that Luna? Luna Matadas?

[00:01:43] Jess O'Reilly: It rhymes, you know.

[00:01:44] Brandon Ware: It rhymes. I love that. She's a rhymer. She's a plumber. Uh, I,