This week’s episode is about boundaries. Setting boundaries help others learn how we expect to be treated. Not setting those boundaries can be detrimental to our self love journey because we abandon our needs.

Today’s guest, Amy Fiedler, is an expert on boundaries. Amy is a three time published author of personal development books. She holds professional certifications as a holistic life coach, reiki master practitioner, ordained minister and trauma support specialist.

Give Amy a follow on Instagram @amythelifecoach and check out her website amyfiedler.com. Amy has her own podcast called Connect the Dots B*tch. Make sure to check it out after this episode!

QUOTES

“Giving them directions on how we need to be treated is really what a boundary is.” [3:10] –Amy Fiedler

“An indicator that a boundary needs to be set is that you are feeling annoyed, you are feeling disrespected, you are feeling irritated, frustrated…any type of negative emotion in an interaction with another person or in an environment you’re in.” [3:59] –Amy Fiedler

“If you’re feeling annoyed by something…you’re avoiding something.” [4:17] –Amy Fiedler

“Negative emotions will provide you the guidance in where a boundary needs to be set.” [4:46] –Amy Fiedler

“You have to own your emotions. And owning your emotions is you saying ‘I’m feeling anxious right now and it would be helpful if you spoke to me this way instead.’” [6:45] –Amy Fielder

“Boundaries are with you forever in these relationships. They’re probably going to evolve over time. And so as you grow, and you mature, and you learn new ways to communicate, things or your needs change. You’re going to have to communicate these. The willingness to communicate, the willingness to ask for what you need is really important as well.” [10:53] –Amy Fiedler

“If we don’t set those boundaries what happens is we abandon our needs. We abandon our wants. We abandon the things we value. And we send ourselves a message of self neglect. In order to love ourselves, we need to listen to ourselves and then we need to respect ourselves enough to advocate for what we’re needing and wanting.” [11:20] –Amy Fiedler

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