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Welcome to self-care with a conscience - where science, spirituality, and sustainability are brunch buddies. Self-Helpless explores all things on the cutting edge of personal and collective growth with leading specialists who share paradigm-shifting insights every week. Hosted by Delanie Fischer, who's recognized by listeners for her casual but fluff-free approach, Self-Helpless has been described as if Rich Roll and Rainn Wilson had a much less eloquent (but also pretty fun) podcast baby.
New episodes every Monday, Wednesday & Friday - making your commutes, tasks, or bedtime existential crisis more majestic.
How Quickly Does Their Problem Become Yours? Ditch Auto-Accommodating and Stay in Your Lane with Terri Cole
Self-Helpless
46 minutes
2 weeks ago
How Quickly Does Their Problem Become Yours? Ditch Auto-Accommodating and Stay in Your Lane with Terri Cole
Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting these over-functioning behaviors to let go of what’s not your responsibility—freeing up your time and energy while empowering those around you.
Discussed in this episode:
Busting The Biggest Codependency Myth
Hyper-Independence and Anticipatory Planning
Auto Advice-Giving and The Auto-Yes
Taking Your Resentment Inventory
Let Them Be The Hero of Their Story
Escaping the Cult of Nice
5 Scripts for Setting New Boundaries
How To Identify a Transference
Primary vs. Secondary Gain
8 Questions to Ask Before You Fix or Rescue
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Self-Helpless
Welcome to self-care with a conscience - where science, spirituality, and sustainability are brunch buddies. Self-Helpless explores all things on the cutting edge of personal and collective growth with leading specialists who share paradigm-shifting insights every week. Hosted by Delanie Fischer, who's recognized by listeners for her casual but fluff-free approach, Self-Helpless has been described as if Rich Roll and Rainn Wilson had a much less eloquent (but also pretty fun) podcast baby.
New episodes every Monday, Wednesday & Friday - making your commutes, tasks, or bedtime existential crisis more majestic.
