A brand new podcast hosted by writers and best friends, Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth.
"We've done the therapy, so you don't have to."
Modern women are done with hiding. Divorce, infertility, fledgling careers, single parenthood - the so-called taboos of female ‘failure’ are quickly becoming our favourite topics. Why? Because we’ve all been there.
Under the glossy exterior of success, we’re all just trying to dodge the demands: be sexy, be smart, be brave, be a wife, be a mother, be a feminist, be fit, be fun… but don’t talk about it. We’re burning down the facade and telling it like it is.
Self Help(ed) is where those stories live - unfiltered, hilarious, vulnerable and real. Each episode dives into the messiness of modern womanhood with honesty, humour and hindsight. It’s second-hand therapy, the space we wish we had during our hardest chapters… and now, it’s yours too.
This is, Self Help(ed).
If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on Instagram at @selfhelpedpod, TikTok at @selfhelpedpod or YouTube.
You can follow Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth.
New episodes dropping every Thursday.
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A brand new podcast hosted by writers and best friends, Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth.
"We've done the therapy, so you don't have to."
Modern women are done with hiding. Divorce, infertility, fledgling careers, single parenthood - the so-called taboos of female ‘failure’ are quickly becoming our favourite topics. Why? Because we’ve all been there.
Under the glossy exterior of success, we’re all just trying to dodge the demands: be sexy, be smart, be brave, be a wife, be a mother, be a feminist, be fit, be fun… but don’t talk about it. We’re burning down the facade and telling it like it is.
Self Help(ed) is where those stories live - unfiltered, hilarious, vulnerable and real. Each episode dives into the messiness of modern womanhood with honesty, humour and hindsight. It’s second-hand therapy, the space we wish we had during our hardest chapters… and now, it’s yours too.
This is, Self Help(ed).
If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on Instagram at @selfhelpedpod, TikTok at @selfhelpedpod or YouTube.
You can follow Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth.
New episodes dropping every Thursday.
When It Rains, It Pours: Why Everything Happens All at Once
Self Help(ed)
43 minutes
2 weeks ago
When It Rains, It Pours: Why Everything Happens All at Once
We all know the saying: “when it rains, it pours”. Usually, it’s describing how problems- or sometimes good fortune- seem to arrive all at once. While it sounds like a simple idiom, there’s actually some scientific and psychological reasoning behind why it feels true.
Cognitively, humans are wired to detect patterns. When multiple stressful or fortunate events happen close together, our brains naturally link them, amplifying the sense of clustering. From a statistical perspective, clustering does occur in random distributions. Studies in probability and chaos theory show that even purely random data often contains streaks or clusters. But in terms of scientific proof that bad luck usually arrives at once? Nope, not a thing.
So while there’s no supernatural proof that life conspires to pile things on, there is psychological and mathematical evidence explaining why it feels that way. This week, we try and unpack our coping mechanisms for periods of ‘heavy rain’ - and the bad habits we need to kick.
CHAPTERS:
01:09 – On the Couch: When It Rains, It Pours
09:32 – Brains love patterns. Hello, fake “clusters”
16:31 – Best tip: You don’t have to reply yet
18:55 – Glass balls vs rubber balls
24:09 – Survival mode makes joy feel risky
32:04 – Scoop of the Week: Skims hairy thong
33:52 – Are we being trolled or is this fashion? Discuss
37:36 – Internet Genius: Habit stacking
If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod.
You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth.
New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod
Self Help(ed)
A brand new podcast hosted by writers and best friends, Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth.
"We've done the therapy, so you don't have to."
Modern women are done with hiding. Divorce, infertility, fledgling careers, single parenthood - the so-called taboos of female ‘failure’ are quickly becoming our favourite topics. Why? Because we’ve all been there.
Under the glossy exterior of success, we’re all just trying to dodge the demands: be sexy, be smart, be brave, be a wife, be a mother, be a feminist, be fit, be fun… but don’t talk about it. We’re burning down the facade and telling it like it is.
Self Help(ed) is where those stories live - unfiltered, hilarious, vulnerable and real. Each episode dives into the messiness of modern womanhood with honesty, humour and hindsight. It’s second-hand therapy, the space we wish we had during our hardest chapters… and now, it’s yours too.
This is, Self Help(ed).
If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on Instagram at @selfhelpedpod, TikTok at @selfhelpedpod or YouTube.
You can follow Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth.
New episodes dropping every Thursday.