When I think about sex, I think about things like cuddling, kissing,  stroking and the intertwining of body parts. There always seems to be a  soft light glowing on the scene that I’m picturing and pleasant music  playing in the background. This is what sex is to me. 

However, I’m  willing to admit that perhaps I’m missing a part (perhaps a big part) of  the overall picture. I’ve read about those ladies who get paid to tie  up and abuse guys and I’ve always sorta wondered what was going on there  – do people really like this stuff? 

Lately I’ve started to realize that  there might be a middle ground here that could be interesting to me –  sexual power dynamics.