Sarah + Vanessa try to answer the question: how do you Say the Unsaid when the Other won't listen?

Vanessa + Sarah reflect on one year of leading process groups, tolerating the aggression and gift of Slug Hugs, the invitation of faking it until you make it, and the imperative to make mountains out of molehills.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about leading with vulnerability, the etymology of the word vulnerability, and a few resonant ideas from Livington's 1999 article on Vulnerability and Tenderness in Group Psychotherapy.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about how in group you can talk about everything, even when it feels "too late," or "the moment has passed."

Sarah + Vanessa discuss group as an opportunity to develop richer emotional connections with others by simultaneously owning what is going on within us while considering what is going on within the Other.

Vanessa + Sarah revisit the Operating Room situation, and what went Right. They talk about how a sense of creative agency and having a voice mitigates against the potentially traumatic impact of scary situations.

Vanessa + Sarah talk about the use of consulting the "felt sense" as a way of listening to what is beneath the surface.

Vanessa + Sarah discuss group work through the lens of Jungian concepts of the problem of opposites, the transcendent function, individuation, and fairytales.

Vanessa + Sarah share some examples of how process group relating is leaking into their outside lives, including Vanessa's experience of her first follow-up surgery this week removing the screws from the metal plates in her jaw.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about the concept of Negation as a clue to the unconscious, and the practice of playing Opposite Day in process groups as a way to wonder how sometimes what we say or deny might hide a less-tolerable or intolerable opposite thought that might also be true.

Vanessa + Sarah share associations to Margaret Crastnopol's article, "The Analyst's Achilles Heels: Owning and Offsetting the Clinical Impact of Our Intrinsic Flaws" (2019).

Vanessa + Sarah talk about Vanessa's follow-up appointment with her surgeon as well as some of the parameters-around and utility-of the "frame" in running a process group.

Vanessa + Sarah discuss a chapter from Louis Ormont's article titled, "Leader's Role in Resolving Resistances to Intimacy in the Group Setting."

Vanessa + Sarah reflect on the one year anniversary of Joy's death and how her death was a catalyst to prioritize friendship and a Joy-ful life, including their decision to lead process groups together.

Vanessa + Sarah talk about what it means to Say the Unsaid when something bad happens. A week prior Vanessa was in a bike accident that resulted in a broken jaw in four places and multiple broken teeth. Sarah flew out to accompany her in the hospital pre- and post- reconstructive jaw surgery.

Vanessa + Sarah describe process groups as a bunch of animal creatures showing up in their precise animal form, learning about themselves and other creatures by putting as much as possible into words.

Sarah + Vanessa discuss a second component to learning to take what you want in process groups: finding out if your strategy is working.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about one of the goals of process groups: learning how to take what you want, and coming to see that that "taking" doesn't necessarily mean "taking-away" from others, but can add to their potential vitality, too.

Vanessa + Sarah talk about one of the reasons someone might want to participate in a Process Group: to see how others perceive them.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about group as a metal detector for (often unconscious) protector armor.