Tina and Dennis catch up on how they're feeling and what they have been up to. Dennis talks about holding a lovely group at his studio/clinic and they riff about the dynamics and forces involved in a "lovely" group atmosphere for both leader and attendees.
This week is all about Resilience - so they start off by discussing what it is and what is isn't, in their perspectives and in a body-mind and worldly context.
As a closet-Trekkie Dennis brings up the Borg to make a distinction between resistance and resilience. Where resilience is more of a sweet spot in between softness and sturdiness. Remembering that we are a part of a bigger whole, but without the nanobots and hive-mind. Tina concludes that resilience in the end is about choice.
Resilience as a dynamic process that brings about change, movement, shifts; the multidirectional influence of change in body, behaviour, mind and environment. They talk about how awareness and thinking can sometimes get in each others way rather than improving resilience - exploring openly rather than resorting to old patterns or behaviours keeps us open and expanding, therefore being resilient as opposed to stuck.
Dennis reminds us that resilience is already within us and that we want to come into contact with it rather than "finding it", and taking the pressure off of needing to achieve something else. Tina brings up feelings of safety as an important part of feeling resilient.
Dennis maneuvers his way out of mansplaining patriarchy to Tina, in relation to societal structures that mould western society's interpretation of resilience and "being strong". D goes off on his own loop about mens behaviour, strength, resilience and masculinity. And where do boundaries come into all this? Knowing the spectrum of resilience is key to nervous system regulation, being aware using tracking of sensations within the body. We conclude that that is as a part of resilience.
Luckily T&D agree on welcoming duality or multiplicity of experience in the somatic approach ( the importance of "And") and the body as a container of experiences, where emotions and sensations are contents. Resilience as allowing vulnerability... What now!?! Here once more, practice with the body makes perfect to feeling safe of experiencing these feelings (contents) within a safe perimeter (contents) that are all fluid like .
Great listener question this week - how to stop "performing" and be authentic/ true to yourself. With another blast back to the past referring to teletext pages and disclosing their age, Dennis and Tina engage in a lovely practice to guide our listeners into softening (for “performance reviews" or preparing for a zombie apocalypse). And Tina does her best (with obviously trying not to outperform) to prevent herself from dozing off and dropping from her chair.
