When I started this podcast, my intention was to talk more about Sam's addiction and death than I have, but that was before I realized how important my focus is as I move forward with grief.   If I zero in on the tragedy that I cannot change or undo, I am surrendering the valuable time I have left here, whereas If I focus on healing, knowing that I will ALWAYS carry this grief, I am developing the tools I need to make the burden of losing Sam lighter.    What we focus on is crucial to the future we create for ourselves.    If we want to feel better and become stronger, we need to focus on what we can control, which is how we choose to live the rest of our lives.    Our grief of losing a son or daughter takes up tremendous amounts of energy in our lives, whether we are looking directly at it our not.  When we shift our gaze forward, we are not escaping our grief,  we are arming ourselves to live with it.💕