It’s not just the expectations you have for your spouse that affect your marriage, but also the ones you have for yourself.

Often this causes your pride to take a hit and instead of saying “I need you” we begin to get more critical of ourselves and in turn, our spouses.

It also can cause us to project assumptions of what we think their reaction could be or even should be and there is the reason not to say anything… or so we think.

Not to mention the issue of if we do tell them and they don’t do it the way we would do it- what a let down!

And we tell them how wrong they are- especially when it comes to loading the dishwasher, folding the towels or helping with the kids.

It’s not how we would do it. Clearly they are wrong.

But how do those small moments add up and erode the relationship with the person we are supposed to be the most connected too?