Our unconscious definition of love is the source of all pain, lack of love and of all dramatic experiences we manifest in our life when we actually long for love.
When I hit German ground after 40 years being abroad and back to my mother’s home, I heard my inner voice saying: you have still not learnt to be your own number one priority.
Unconditionally.
It hit me hard inside and it hit home.
I had to go deeper and being with my demented mother for almost a year now, gave me a good chance to dig into unhealed wounds.
And then one day, I had a realisation:
My unconscious definition of love was not the same as my conscious definition of love. What I believed love is.
My inner little child had no role model for what unconditional love was.
It’s difficult to recognise exactly what our unconscious definition of love is, since even the definition is unconscious – it has accompanied us from our very early days.
It arose from the relationship to our caretakers, from the interaction of our parents with each other and towards life, since they were our role models.
Our unconscious definition of love is the source of all pain, lack of love and of all dramatic experiences we manifest in our life when we actually long for love.
However, I realised, that In the end, our unconscious definition of love manifested in our daily life experiences is actually helping us to experience unconditional love.
If we would only recognise it!
Listen to this podcast to wake up to your unconscious definition of love, which keeps repeating our painful experiences.