May 2021 bring even more awareness in love.

During the Germanic Rauhnächte, which means long cold nights, stories formed part of the family gathering. So let me tell you a story: an interesting one:

How we bonded over the past thousands of years:

1. Prior to 11.000 years ago - kind of free love without knowing what it meant
2. Property and ownership concept: arranged marriage and its impact
3. 18th century: the romantic marriage resulting in Sigmund Freund's discovery  -  late 19th century, -  the choice of a partner, if it is romantic, is influenced by our unconscious minds more than our rational preferences, meaning we choose a person who is incredibly similar to the ones of our caretakers. Post War II  understanding of dissatisfaction in marriages was based on concept: "You are responsible for my needs"
4. Past 20 years to NOW: CONSCIOUS PARTNERSHIP - 

The commitment here is to the needs of the relationship, that third aspect of US. It’s not about YOU, and not about ME, but about the relationship itself, a container for which we both are responsible for and committed to. 

The key is: we both make our relationship primary and our needs secondary.

In my coaching I don't focus on healing the traumatised child and it’s woundings, but to empower the Healthy Self which is self-aware and accountable for its own emotions and actions. If two people are reliable, empathic and sustainable present with each other, it creates a new emotional safe environment,  where the loving presence replaces old toxic behaviours, and creates a container of joy and connection, which extends further out, supporting others, creating community.

May 2021 bring even more awareness in love.