It is a repeating story in heterosexual relationships. Most don’t even dare to speak it up. There is a lot of courage in it to stand up for what you feel you need.
However, there are needs and needs.
If you are in this place, be aware of the impact and the consequences this decision may bring with it. Don’t just be that child which throws his rattle out of the bed and then cries. Be conscious and don’t hide, less you both have agreed on hiding this topic.
The first one, I believe, can be managed if both partners are open to it. It requires feeling and being your partner’s first priority, deep trust, deep love, conscious communication and clear boundaries and agreements. It can still be tricky in our society, where there is a lot of competition, a “chasing” energy and not a lot of community support in this subject. I personally also believe, there is a lot of confusion around how to live “polyamorous” or “open”
If you experience the second one, then... find out more here