The show where business meets love, and culture meets critique. We’re Aiwan and Tamanda, two Black women with 20 years each in entertainment, research, and social justice. We’re also a married couple figuring out what it means to build a life and two businesses together.
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If you’re navigating business, love, and the messiness of life while trying to do meaningful work, you’re in the right place.
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The show where business meets love, and culture meets critique. We’re Aiwan and Tamanda, two Black women with 20 years each in entertainment, research, and social justice. We’re also a married couple figuring out what it means to build a life and two businesses together.
We'll talk about the realities of running a business, making creative work that matters, and navigating research with integrity.
What You’ll Find:
If you’re navigating business, love, and the messiness of life while trying to do meaningful work, you’re in the right place.
Episodes drop every Tuesday!
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We travel back to the glossy pages that raised us - the agony-aunt columns, gossip spreads, and advice pages that shaped girlhood across Africa and beyond.
At the centre of the story is Dear Dolly - an advice column that captured the hearts of readers across the continent of Africa, answering questions about love, shame, and desire. What few people knew was that, in the early days at least, “Dolly” wasn’t a woman at all, but a group of men writing under her name.
Reading directly from the Drum magazine archives, we dive into real letters from the 1960s and 70s - from women asking about cheating husbands and body image, to queer readers cautiously revealing their desires in a deeply heteronormative world. We sit with the tenderness, the absurdity, and the harm in those pages: the empathy that sometimes peeked through, and the patriarchy printed between the lines.
Together we ask what these columns reveal about love, morality, and modernity in post-colonial Africa - and how their logics still echo today, from tabloid talk shows to TikTok advice culture.
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📬 Reflections or stories to share? Email us: rigourandflow@gmail.com
⚠️ Content note: discussion includes gendered violence, body shaming, and references to mental health.
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