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Every relationship has its problems. But, too often, those problems become destructive and even dangerous. This happens in Christian marriages, too. And the church, unfortunately, hasn’t done a great job of dealing with it.
Relationship Truth: Unfiltered is a place for people of faith to find real answers when it comes to destructive relationships.
God Didn’t Ask Me to Be Nice: Reclaiming Truth, Boundaries, and Peace
Relationship Truth: Unfiltered
43 minutes 44 seconds
4 months ago
God Didn’t Ask Me to Be Nice: Reclaiming Truth, Boundaries, and Peace
📌 Episode Summary:
In today’s episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, host LeAnne Parsons, Professional Certified Coach and trauma-informed practitioner on Leslie Vernick’s coaching team, sits down with Vickie a woman whose life was built on saying yes to everyone—until she learned how to say yes to God first.
From taking on adult responsibilities at age six to becoming everyone’s helper as a wife, mom, and ministry leader, our guest was admired for her generosity and "niceness"—but underneath was exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet spiritual disconnect.
Through the Moving Beyond People Pleasing program, she discovered the profound difference between being nice and being kind, between serving others and submitting to God's voice.
She shares how learning to pause, ask God first, and honor the boundaries He helped her set brought incredible freedom—and how the courage to speak up, receive coaching, and be honest with herself changed everything.
This conversation will inspire any woman who has ever felt burned out, invisible, or afraid to say no.
🔑 In This Episode You’ll Hear:
How people pleasing became part of her identity from childhood
The moment she realized “niceness” was costing her more than she knew
Why being honest with God and herself was the most loving thing she could do
What it’s like to speak up for the first time in a safe coaching environment
How biblical boundaries led to peace, clarity, and confidence in daily life
Why “If it’s not a firm yes, it’s a hard no” became a spiritual anchor
The beauty of flexible coaching and sacred sisterhood in a Christ-centered program
🧭 Key Quote Highlights:
“I thought I was honest. But I was saying yes when my heart was screaming no.”
“I assumed I was serving… so how could God not be in it?”
“If I didn’t have a firm yes, the answer was a hard no.”
“God didn’t ask me to be nice—He asked me to be faithful.”
📖 Anchor Scripture:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” — Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
🙋♀️ Are You Ready to Move Beyond People Pleasing?
If this story hit home for you, we invite you to join our Moving Beyond People Pleasing summer coaching experience. It’s flexible. Faith-centered. And filled with powerful tools, real-time support, and a community of courageous women walking toward truth, wholeness, and peace.
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Relationship Truth: Unfiltered
Every relationship has its problems. But, too often, those problems become destructive and even dangerous. This happens in Christian marriages, too. And the church, unfortunately, hasn’t done a great job of dealing with it.
Relationship Truth: Unfiltered is a place for people of faith to find real answers when it comes to destructive relationships.
