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Reflective Rebels Podcast: We're Done Pretending
Ben Hickman
9 episodes
1 week ago
For business owners whose days define them instead of the other way around. Who do everything for everybody else while drifting through their own existence. Real people putting down their masks and sharing what's actually happening in their lives - not the LinkedIn version, but the honest truth about struggle AND joy, mess AND meaning. The kind of conversations that make you think, 'I'm not the only one who feels this way.' You'll feel less alone in whatever you're going through, maybe learn something about yourself in their story, and find the courage to make a change in your own life.
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For business owners whose days define them instead of the other way around. Who do everything for everybody else while drifting through their own existence. Real people putting down their masks and sharing what's actually happening in their lives - not the LinkedIn version, but the honest truth about struggle AND joy, mess AND meaning. The kind of conversations that make you think, 'I'm not the only one who feels this way.' You'll feel less alone in whatever you're going through, maybe learn something about yourself in their story, and find the courage to make a change in your own life.
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Anxiety: Why It Hits During Good Times (Martha's Story)
Reflective Rebels Podcast: We're Done Pretending
46 minutes 13 seconds
3 months ago
Anxiety: Why It Hits During Good Times (Martha's Story)

Episode Summary:

If you've ever felt anxious when things are actually going well, this episode is for you.

Martha's story: How stability triggered anxiety, why "I'm not creative" became her biggest lie, and what wild swimming taught her about being human.

Listen if you:

  • Feel anxious even when you "should" be grateful
  • Tell yourself stories about what you can't do
  • Wonder why the good times sometimes feel harder than the bad ones
  • Think you're not the "creative type"


35 minutes of honest conversation about anxiety, creativity, and the stories we tell ourselves.


Key takeaways

  • Anxiety can emerge during stability, not just chaos - Sometimes when life finally settles, we start feeling things we've been too busy to process
  • From "I hate the Lake District" to finding peace in wild swimming - Our strongest "never" statements often hide our greatest transformations
  • "I'm not creative" to oil painting success - Challenging lifelong assumptions can unlock parts of ourselves we never knew existed
  • Making people laugh can be armour we outgrow - Using humour to deflect and fit in might protect us but can also disconnect us from our authentic selves
  • Therapy isn't just for crisis moments - Investing in mental health maintenance when things are good can be life-changing

Quotable Moments:

"I think marriage is a continual choice. Whether that takes 10 years to get married or it takes nine months to get married, if you are with somebody that is willing to work on it with you... the time thing doesn't make a big difference."

"It was paralysing to be honest and it was so different to who I thought I was... I didn't want to leave the house ever. And that was crazy to me because I'm a social person."

"There's a peace that you cannot describe... being in the middle of a lake, just looking around and taking that in, it makes you realise that you're quite small... it reminds you of the big things in life."


Timestamps

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 00:47 Getting to know Martha
  • 04:35 At school
  • 07:11 Falling in love
  • 10:39 Marriage: Choices and Reflections
  • 16:49 Authenticity and Personal Growth
  • 20:06 Navigating Life Changes and Mental Health
  • 28:25 Understanding Anxiety: Personal Experiences
  • 35:24 Finding Joy in Nature and Stillness
  • 40:42 Embracing Creativity and New Experiences
  • 45:27 Outro


Mentioned in this episode

  • Wild swimming in the Lake District
  • Oil painting classes
  • The power of therapy for mental health maintenance
  • Louis Theroux documentaries (perfect 7:30pm viewing!)
  • King Silver (fantasy book recommendation)


If this episode resonates...

Are you ready to challenge the stories you've been telling yourself?

If you're standing at your own moment of questioning - whether it's about your career, your business, or simply who you think you are - you're not alone. Sometimes the biggest transformations start with the smallest question: "What if I'm wrong about this?"

Join my email community for reflections on living authentically, choosing your own enough, and stories that remind you your story isn't over yet.

And if this story resonates deeply - if you're ready to challenge your own stories and create real change - I'd love to explore how I can support your transformation.

Contact me today.


Reflective Rebels Podcast: We're Done Pretending
For business owners whose days define them instead of the other way around. Who do everything for everybody else while drifting through their own existence. Real people putting down their masks and sharing what's actually happening in their lives - not the LinkedIn version, but the honest truth about struggle AND joy, mess AND meaning. The kind of conversations that make you think, 'I'm not the only one who feels this way.' You'll feel less alone in whatever you're going through, maybe learn something about yourself in their story, and find the courage to make a change in your own life.