Becoming a grandmother is one of those life moments that sneaks up on you. In this episode, I sit down with DeeDee Moore, founder of More Than Grand, to explore what modern grandparenting actually looks like and how to navigate this transformative stage with intention and genuine joy. Whether you're about to become a grandmother or watching grandchildren grow from a distance, this conversation will help you create a meaningful role that works for your family.
Key Insights
Intention Shapes Your Impact
Clarify your purpose before stepping into the grandmother role. When you know what you truly want to pass on, whether love, resilience, or cultural heritage. it's easier to set healthy boundaries and resist the pressure to buy every toy or override parents' decisions.
Communication Is Everything
The relationship with your grandchildren's parents determines your experience as a grandmother. Most tensions arise from assumptions and unspoken expectations. Have honest conversations early and often. Ask before you advise. This isn't weakness, it's wisdom.
Modern Parenting Is Entirely Different
Today's parents are drowning in information and comparison. Educate yourself about current best practices and parenting trends so you can be genuinely helpful rather than a source of stress.
Setting Boundaries for Protection
If you're the primary grandchild carer, have a clear plan before committing. Talk about sick days, holidays, and what happens if circumstances change. Regular check-ins keep resentment from building.
Relationships Matter Most
Whether you're long-distance, navigating blended families, or dealing with separation, genuine relationship holds everything together. Show up consistently, even when it's complicated.
Moving Forward
Start by having a real conversation with your grandchildren's parents about how you can genuinely help. Your relationship with your grandchildren will be one of the greatest privileges of your life. Make it intentional.
Connect with DeeDee
DeeDee Moore founded More Than Grand to help new grandparents become the village new parents need. Her insight and resources make this sometimes-tricky transition smoother for the whole family. On the More Than Grand blog and social media, DeeDee covers topics such as concrete ways to support new parents, understanding new trends in child care, and meaningful ways to connect with grandchildren.
Website: More Than Grand https://morethangrand.com/?utm_campaign=podcast&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=referral&utm_term=jc
New Grandparent Essentials (digital course for newbies) https://www.morethangrand.com/shop/p/new-grandparent-essentials?utm_campaign=podcast&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=referral&utm_term=jc
Website mentioned. The Long Distance Grandparent https://thelongdistancegrandparent.com/
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