In this episode of the "Redeem Yourself" podcast, host Jared interviews guest Tom Fay about his journey from addiction to recovery. Tom shares his upbringing, his descent into heroin use, and the toll addiction took on his life. Despite a good childhood, things took a turn in high school, leading to a pattern of destructive behavior. Tom's story includes a suicide attempt, theft, and the struggle with guilt and shame, particularly around his relationships and becoming a father. The episode touches on the importance of support in recovery, with both men discussing their personal experiences with addiction and the challenges of seeking help.

Tom's Experimentation with Drugs (00:09:31)

Tom talks about his experimentation with drugs, including his experiences with marijuana and heroin.

Impact of Heroin on Tom's Life (00:10:32)

Tom shares the impact of heroin on his life and his mindset during addiction.

Consequences of Addiction and Guilt (00:17:16)

Tom discusses the consequences of his addiction, including guilt, shame, and strained relationships.

Awareness of Sobriety and Resistance to Recovery (00:19:28)

Tom reflects on his awareness of sobriety, his resistance to recovery, and his experiences with treatment and detox.

Struggles with Guilt and Shame (00:21:58)

Tom talks about his struggles with guilt and shame and his resistance to seeking help for his addiction.

The downward spiral (00:22:47)

Tom talks about his actions while addicted, including theft and shoplifting, and the consequences he faced.

The suicide attempt (00:26:09)

Tom describes a graphic suicide attempt and the aftermath, including waking up in the hospital.

Struggles and self-sabotage (00:29:31)

Jared shares his own struggles with self-sabotage and the impact of guilt and shame on his addiction.

Continued chaos and addiction (00:33:37)

Tom discusses his continued struggle with addiction, including multiple treatment center stays and a job as a business manager.

Realization and consequences (00:39:50)

Jared shares his experience with jail and a drug program, highlighting his initial lack of understanding and the impact on his mindset.

The U-turn moment (00:43:04)

Tom reflects on the turning point in his life, marked by the compounding guilt and shame, the loss of his father, and the departure of his daughter and her mother.

The woman's intervention (00:43:52)

Tom's mini intervention and his initial resistance to seeking help for addiction.

U-turn moment (00:44:43)

Tom's realization and decision to seek help after witnessing his roommates' positive experiences in recovery.

Finding love and support (00:46:00)

The impact of peer support and love on Tom's decision to seek recovery.

Epiphany and reaching out for help (00:47:31)

Tom's realization of needing help and reaching out to his mother for support.

Taking small steps towards recovery (00:48:54)

Tom's journey of setting small goals and making progress in his recovery.

Success leaves clues (00:49:53)

The significance of being around people who can inspire and guide in recovery.

Life beyond recovery (00:50:27)

Tom's achievements and his journey to helping others in recovery.

Overcoming self-doubt (00:53:14)

Tom's realization of his own potential and the power of his message.

Inspiring change (00:55:23)

Tom's advice to those seeking hope and inspiration for making positive changes.

Cherishing family moments (00:57:07)

The importance of family and love in recovery, as highlighted by a touching family moment.