In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton unpack something most of us do—often without realising it: the chameleon effect.
From relationships to work and even parenting, many of us subtly shape-shift to be who others need us to be—just to feel safe, accepted, or loved. Ash and Dave explore what happens when this survival strategy turns into self-abandonment, and how to reclaim your authenticity while still adapting with awareness.
Drawing from real-life stories (including Ash’s reflections on her 12-year-old son learning who he is around others), this episode explores the roots of this behavior and the gentle practice of self-observation as the path back to truth.
In this episode:
What the “chameleon effect” really is and why we all do it
How fear of rejection drives shape-shifting behaviors
The fine line between adapting and abandoning yourself
How to use observation—not judgment—to return to authenticity
Parenting lessons: letting your child explore identity safely
The importance of recording and watching yourself with compassion
Why authenticity feels safer than performing once you learn to stay with yourself
Ash and Dave close with a powerful reflection on recording your own conversations as a tool for empathy, awareness, and growth.
Reflection prompts:
When do you notice yourself changing to fit in?
What’s your “why” behind wanting to be liked or accepted?
How can you observe yourself with curiosity, not criticism?
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The Re-Mind Podcast shares general information about mental health, well-being, healing, and spiritual growth. This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional.
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