This is the story of a boy growing up under the weight of shame for being gay—constantly battling the natural urge to embrace his true self. Societal expectations, enforced by the rigid hand of the church, only deepened his internal struggle, making the burden of secrecy even heavier.

Coming out was not easy. It was filled with fear and uncertainty, especially when meeting new people or facing family. The shame ran deep, and it took years—until college—for my colleague to fully accept and be at peace with who he is. Even then, he felt the need to soften the revelation, framing his identity in a way that aligned with society’s expectations of “normal.”

He intentionally mentioned having a boyfriend, not to share a personal truth, rather as a way to counter the stereotype of gay men being promiscuous. His world revolved around managing how others perceived his truth.

But perhaps the most ironic and climactic part of his story? His own father had secrets too. You’ll have to listen to hear the big reveal!