What do you say to a grieving friend? How do you process the death of a parent or a future you expected for yourself? What does spirituality look like after Evangelicalism? What is the 'baby' and what is the 'bathwater'? Ruthie is a memoirist, a speaker, and a guide for spiritual ceremonies. She's also one of my best friends. We don't always agree on the details, but we do on the heart. And she has a life story and hard-earned wisdom that continue to change my life.