
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jaxon Feeley, former prison officer, public speaker, and trans advocate, for a powerful and deeply human conversation about courage, visibility, and doing it scared.
Jaxon opens up about his life before and after transition, from working in the prison service to walking back through the gates as “Mr Feeley.” He shares how he found the strength to come out publicly, the moment he told his family they could have “a dead daughter or a living son,” and why he believes fear and bravery can exist in the same breath.
From battling stigma to embracing authenticity, Jaxon’s story is one of resilience, vulnerability, and relentless hope. His mantra, “do it scared,” is a reminder that courage does not mean being fearless; it means showing up anyway.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire
03:35 Childhood and Early Identity
08:42 Transitioning and Authenticity
13:21 Family Dynamics and Support
18:32 Working in a Prison Environment
23:22 Reality TV Experiences
28:38 Living Authentically in the World
34:10 The Intensity of Reality TV
34:56 Balancing Multiple Roles
37:08 Finding Daily Happiness
39:11 Navigating Loneliness in the Spotlight
41:39 The Importance of Social Media Breaks
43:27 The Thrill of Hunted: A Unique Experience
56:06 The Impact of Representation in Media
59:17 Introducing 'Fear Proof': A New Book
01:03:38 Advice for the Younger Self
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Website - https://jaxonfeeley.com
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