Welcome to episode #244! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast:  Vows vs. Intentionality — Why ‘I’ll Never Do That Again’ Doesn’t Work”

Have you ever said, “I’ll never do that again”—only to find yourself doing the exact same thing later? Whether it’s porn, anger, or hurtful words, we’ve all made vows in moments of guilt or frustration. But what if those vows are actually working against lasting change?

In this episode, Braden dives into the real difference between making vows and living intentionally—and why one keeps you stuck while the other leads to freedom. Using the story of Peter’s denial and restoration, we see how Jesus isn’t asking for dramatic promises—He’s inviting us into daily, steady growth.

You’ll learn how to move from emotional reactions to practical, Spirit-led steps that build a life of freedom and integrity.

🔑 Key Points:

• Vows come from reaction, not reflection. They’re emotional declarations often made in guilt, shame, or frustration.
• Jesus cautioned against impulsive vows (Matthew 5:37). He calls us to simple, faithful obedience instead.
• Peter’s story shows that sincerity isn’t enough—without intentional growth, vows crumble. But Jesus restores, not shames.
• Intentionality is proactive, not reactive. It’s slow, steady, and rooted in daily habits of surrender and faithfulness.
• Worldly sorrow vs. godly sorrow (2 Corinthians 7:10): one leads to panic and self-condemnation, the other to genuine repentance and life change.
• Freedom isn’t found in “never again.” It’s found in “today, I’ll take one step closer to Jesus.”

🧭 Practical Steps:

Want to start walking intentionally? Try this:

1. Get accountable. Install accountability software or invite a trusted friend into your journey.
2. Join a healing group. Don’t walk alone—freedom grows in community.
3. Be honest. Share your real struggles with someone safe.
4. Build rhythms. Spend time daily in prayer and Scripture; fill your mind with truth, not triggers.
5. Focus on today. Instead of swearing off forever, ask, “What’s one intentional step I can take right now?”

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BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com