In this episode of 'Pulling Threads,' we delve into the common human desire to control what we fear losing, particularly in the context of relationships. Whether you're in the early dating stages or years into a partnership, the urge to define, predict, and control the relationship can often lead to its downfall. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, we explore why we cling to control and how we can shift towards a more grounded, mindful approach to love. Learn how to embrace connection, practice self-love, and navigate the complexities of modern dating with grace and openness. Join us as we unweave old patterns and build stronger ties for a more fulfilling romantic journey. 00:00 Introduction to the Human Experience of Love 00:17 The Desire to Control in Relationships 00:43 Early Stages of Dating and Relationship Sabotage 01:37 The Importance of Connection and Common Behaviors 03:12 Exploring the Fear of Getting Hurt 08:20 The Role of Control and Safety in Love 09:01 Navigating Modern Dating and Seeking Advice 16:07 Understanding Attachment Styles 17:15 Embracing Love Without Guarantees 21:29 Conclusion: Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace