The P.S. We Expire podcast centers around one big question:
This life is short, so why are we waiting?
Why are we waiting to…
start a business we can’t stop dreaming about?
leave a career, relationship, or religion that is unfulfilling?
create habits that carry us through hard times?
choose to have a loving relationship with ourselves?
Welcome. I’m Morgan. I’m an entrepreneur, mother, speaker, and mayhem-maker. I learned first-hand how challenging it is to navigate unexpected and painful circumstances. When my daughter was diagnosed with an incurable, degenerative disease at age 3, I learned quickly what was most important in life. I explored psychology, spirituality, philosophy, and healing. For the last 11+ years, I have learned tools and methods for mindfulness and resilience, and I share them on this podcast.
We all want more fulfilled lives, but that can only happen when we have honest conversations and authentic connections. Let’s have these conversations together here on the P.S. We Expire podcast.
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The P.S. We Expire podcast centers around one big question:
This life is short, so why are we waiting?
Why are we waiting to…
start a business we can’t stop dreaming about?
leave a career, relationship, or religion that is unfulfilling?
create habits that carry us through hard times?
choose to have a loving relationship with ourselves?
Welcome. I’m Morgan. I’m an entrepreneur, mother, speaker, and mayhem-maker. I learned first-hand how challenging it is to navigate unexpected and painful circumstances. When my daughter was diagnosed with an incurable, degenerative disease at age 3, I learned quickly what was most important in life. I explored psychology, spirituality, philosophy, and healing. For the last 11+ years, I have learned tools and methods for mindfulness and resilience, and I share them on this podcast.
We all want more fulfilled lives, but that can only happen when we have honest conversations and authentic connections. Let’s have these conversations together here on the P.S. We Expire podcast.
Ep76: Are you an over-functioning woman in your relationship? With Dr. Ashley Southard
P.S. We Expire with Morgan Motsinger
1 hour 26 minutes 21 seconds
10 months ago
Ep76: Are you an over-functioning woman in your relationship? With Dr. Ashley Southard
There's a difficult dynamic in many relationships: over-functioning people (usually women) are together with an under-functioning partner. Dr. Ashley Southard has been a family therapist for over two decades and in the past couple of years has given voice to many unhealthy dynamics couples find themselves in.
"Over-functioning really speaks to kind of the emotional and mental labor that somebody is carrying in the relationship to keep that relationship going...they are doing the bulk of the relationship work. And conversely, then the under-functioning partner is not carrying the load. They are not really focusing on the relationship. They're not putting the effort and the energy into keeping this relationship functional and healthy. The over-functioning partner is doing nearly all of that work on their own and trying to hold this relationship together with their own hands without the help of their under-functioning partner." (Dr. Ashley Southard)
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Dr. Ashley Southard is a psychotherapist in Scottsdale, AZ, specializing in The Overfunctioning Woman in Love who is struggling with the confusing, exhausting, and lonely dynamics of one-sided, unfulfilling love relationships. With over 20 years of clinical experience treating complex trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and relationship issues, coupled with her own personal journey out of Overfunctioning, Dr. Ashley loves nothing more than creating an emotionally safe space for women to discover that they are not ‘crazy’ or ‘broken’…and that they have the power to become the Self-Restored Woman they were always meant to be! Dr. Ashley is also very active on Instagram, offering life-changing information to “make sense out of the nonsense.” She has amassed a strong following of women who are remembering their power, learning how to come back home to themselves, and healing in community with other Self-Restoring women.
You can find Dr. Ashley at https://www.instagram.com/drashleysouthard
or her website at https://www.drashleysouthard.com/
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Chapters
00:00 Understanding Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning02:34 The Dynamics of Emotional Labor in Relationships05:25 Identifying Practical Examples of Over-Functioning08:27 Navigating Feelings of Discrepancy in Relationships11:20 The Challenge of Making Partners Change14:21 The Pain of the Liminal Space17:20 Stepping Back vs. Quiet Quitting in Relationships29:11 Navigating Communication in Relationships31:19 The Challenge of Parenting with an Under-Functioning Partner35:28 Understanding the Impact of Under-Functioning on Children42:23 Roots of Under-Functioning: Childhood Dynamics47:21 The Cycle of Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning53:51 The Journey of Self-Restoration and What We Deserve01:00:37 Navigating Relationship Dynamics01:02:07 The Risks of Over-Functioning01:04:20 Self-Restoration Journey01:06:34 Facing the Fear of Self-Discovery01:09:00 The Power of Awareness01:11:29 Personal Journey of Transformation01:15:30 Shifting Focus to Self-Change01:18:59 The Importance of Self-Validation01:21:51 Parting Thoughts on Kindness and Compassion
P.S. We Expire with Morgan Motsinger
The P.S. We Expire podcast centers around one big question:
This life is short, so why are we waiting?
Why are we waiting to…
start a business we can’t stop dreaming about?
leave a career, relationship, or religion that is unfulfilling?
create habits that carry us through hard times?
choose to have a loving relationship with ourselves?
Welcome. I’m Morgan. I’m an entrepreneur, mother, speaker, and mayhem-maker. I learned first-hand how challenging it is to navigate unexpected and painful circumstances. When my daughter was diagnosed with an incurable, degenerative disease at age 3, I learned quickly what was most important in life. I explored psychology, spirituality, philosophy, and healing. For the last 11+ years, I have learned tools and methods for mindfulness and resilience, and I share them on this podcast.
We all want more fulfilled lives, but that can only happen when we have honest conversations and authentic connections. Let’s have these conversations together here on the P.S. We Expire podcast.
