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F is for Fear
What happens when our hearts race, our stomachs drop, and our minds spin stories that keep us awake at night? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks one of the most primal, misunderstood, and unavoidable parts of nonmonogamous life: fear.
Fear isn’t just panic or terror. In relationships, it can be the quiet hum beneath jealousy, the sharp edge behind anger, or the silence after a missed check-in. It can keep us small, reactive, and guarded — or, if we learn how to work with it, it can become one of our greatest teachers.
But in the vulnerable, sometimes high-stakes arena of polyamory, fear doesn’t just disappear because we want to be “secure” or “enlightened.” In fact, opening our relationships can turn the volume up on every old wound, every cultural script, every “what if” we’ve ever carried.
What do we do when fear starts to run the show?
What if our fear is rooted in past trauma?
What if it leads us to set rules, pick fights, or pull away from the people we love?
This episode is a compassionate guide to navigating fear in non-monogamous relationships… not by pretending it isn’t there, but by getting curious about what it’s trying to protect.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to:
✅ Understand fear as a survival response — and why it gets louder in polyamory
✅ Spot the hidden ways fear disguises itself as jealousy, anger, or disinterest
✅ Recognize how fear shapes behavior — from controlling rules to withdrawal
✅ Reframe fear as information instead of an enemy
✅ Build emotional regulation skills to work through fear before reacting
✅ Communicate fears in a way that invites connection instead of blame
✅ Discern when fear is telling you to pause versus when it’s inviting you to grow
✅ Use fear as a compass to clarify your values, boundaries, and desires
Fear isn’t a sign you’re failing at polyamory. It’s a sign you’re human — and you’re stretching beyond what’s familiar.
Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans
Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”
Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart
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F is for Fear
What happens when our hearts race, our stomachs drop, and our minds spin stories that keep us awake at night? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks one of the most primal, misunderstood, and unavoidable parts of nonmonogamous life: fear.
Fear isn’t just panic or terror. In relationships, it can be the quiet hum beneath jealousy, the sharp edge behind anger, or the silence after a missed check-in. It can keep us small, reactive, and guarded — or, if we learn how to work with it, it can become one of our greatest teachers.
But in the vulnerable, sometimes high-stakes arena of polyamory, fear doesn’t just disappear because we want to be “secure” or “enlightened.” In fact, opening our relationships can turn the volume up on every old wound, every cultural script, every “what if” we’ve ever carried.
What do we do when fear starts to run the show?
What if our fear is rooted in past trauma?
What if it leads us to set rules, pick fights, or pull away from the people we love?
This episode is a compassionate guide to navigating fear in non-monogamous relationships… not by pretending it isn’t there, but by getting curious about what it’s trying to protect.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to:
✅ Understand fear as a survival response — and why it gets louder in polyamory
✅ Spot the hidden ways fear disguises itself as jealousy, anger, or disinterest
✅ Recognize how fear shapes behavior — from controlling rules to withdrawal
✅ Reframe fear as information instead of an enemy
✅ Build emotional regulation skills to work through fear before reacting
✅ Communicate fears in a way that invites connection instead of blame
✅ Discern when fear is telling you to pause versus when it’s inviting you to grow
✅ Use fear as a compass to clarify your values, boundaries, and desires
Fear isn’t a sign you’re failing at polyamory. It’s a sign you’re human — and you’re stretching beyond what’s familiar.
Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans
Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”
Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart
Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Four: Relationship Re flections
In this episode, Chelle and her former partner and current BFF Brian share their story of their former partnership in the transition from a sexual & romantic relationship to de-escalating, including all the twists and turns along the way. They tackle sharing details of their relationship firsts, people pleasing, growing together, learning to pivot, comparisons and insecurities, placating needs for needs of others, navigating the end of the relationship while being in relationship with others, communicating their own needs in relationships, and navigating their first heartbreak in polyamory.
Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans
Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”
Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart
Polyamirite
F is for Fear
What happens when our hearts race, our stomachs drop, and our minds spin stories that keep us awake at night? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks one of the most primal, misunderstood, and unavoidable parts of nonmonogamous life: fear.
Fear isn’t just panic or terror. In relationships, it can be the quiet hum beneath jealousy, the sharp edge behind anger, or the silence after a missed check-in. It can keep us small, reactive, and guarded — or, if we learn how to work with it, it can become one of our greatest teachers.
But in the vulnerable, sometimes high-stakes arena of polyamory, fear doesn’t just disappear because we want to be “secure” or “enlightened.” In fact, opening our relationships can turn the volume up on every old wound, every cultural script, every “what if” we’ve ever carried.
What do we do when fear starts to run the show?
What if our fear is rooted in past trauma?
What if it leads us to set rules, pick fights, or pull away from the people we love?
This episode is a compassionate guide to navigating fear in non-monogamous relationships… not by pretending it isn’t there, but by getting curious about what it’s trying to protect.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to:
✅ Understand fear as a survival response — and why it gets louder in polyamory
✅ Spot the hidden ways fear disguises itself as jealousy, anger, or disinterest
✅ Recognize how fear shapes behavior — from controlling rules to withdrawal
✅ Reframe fear as information instead of an enemy
✅ Build emotional regulation skills to work through fear before reacting
✅ Communicate fears in a way that invites connection instead of blame
✅ Discern when fear is telling you to pause versus when it’s inviting you to grow
✅ Use fear as a compass to clarify your values, boundaries, and desires
Fear isn’t a sign you’re failing at polyamory. It’s a sign you’re human — and you’re stretching beyond what’s familiar.
Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans
Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”
Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart
