When we think about altered states of consciousness, we often focus on individual experiences. But what happens when we bring psychedelics into our relationships—especially non-monogamous ones? The potential for healing, connection, and transformation is immense, but so are the risks if we're not careful about our approach.
In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Nicole Thompson, a queer, non-monogamous sex and relationship psychotherapist with training in psychedelic integration therapy. Nicole is the host of the Modern Anarchy podcast and founder of The Pleasure Practice. Her groundbreaking doctoral research is the first study on relationship anarchy, and she brings a wealth of knowledge about how psychedelics can support relational liberation.
In this episode, we talk about:
— How psychedelics function as "non-specific amplifiers" that can enhance whatever is present in your relationships (both the good and challenging aspects)
— The crucial importance of set, setting, and integration when using psychedelics for relationship exploration
— Why community is medicine—both in psychedelic experiences and non-monogamy
— The parallels between non-monogamy and psychedelics as mind-expanding experiences that challenge cultural norms
— How psychedelics can help us experience our bodies differently and reconnect with sensation after trauma
— The neuroplasticity that occurs during and after psychedelic experiences (and how to make the most of that 72-hour window)
— Why self-compassion is essential when navigating jealousy in non-monogamous relationships
— The similarities between NRE (New Relationship Energy) and psychedelic states
— Practical integration practices that help us incorporate insights from altered states into everyday life
— Why focusing on positive experiences is just as important as processing challenges
— The importance of harm reduction and testing substances if you choose to use psychedelics
Resources mentioned in this episode:
— Nicole's podcast: Modern Anarchy
— The Psychedelic Jealousy Guide
— Fireside Project psychedelic support hotline
— Relationship Reflection Integration Questions
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Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions