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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy
Pillow Talks
1 hour 1 minute
2 weeks ago
EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy
We’re back with a fan-favorite series—Am I The Asshole? 🎉 You know we love diving into the wildest relationship dilemmas, and today’s lineup is extra spicy.
We’re tackling situations that might hit way too close to home, like:
🚨 Masturbating - do you have to tell your partner every time?
🚨 Journaling about a past relationship—cheating or harmless?
🚨 Going through a partner’s phone (they found what?? 👀)
🚨 A partner picking up an annoying new voice… and refusing to drop it
Sounds messy, right? We’re breaking it ALL down, sharing our takes on who’s the asshole, and of course—we want to hear yours too!
Get ready to laugh, cringe, and maybe rethink your own opinions on these situations!
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If you love these episodes, don’t miss our past Am I The Asshole? deep dives:
🎧 EP 187, EP 155, EP 135, EP 125
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Pillow Talks
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
