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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
E229: Ask A Sex Therapist: Swallowing, Fetishes, + Exes
Pillow Talks
1 hour 5 minutes
2 weeks ago
E229: Ask A Sex Therapist: Swallowing, Fetishes, + Exes
Every week on Instagram, we host “Ask Us Anything” sessions. And honestly? We get way more questions than we could ever answer in stories.
So today, we’re bringing some of those unanswered Qs straight to the podcast to give you deeper answers, real stories, and the honest, judgment-free advice you’ve been waiting for.
Get ready, because we’re tackling some of your biggest, wildest curiosities about sex, intimacy, and relationships.
💛 Here’s what we’re getting into:
Why some guys are so into swallowing (and what it really means).
When “lasting too long” in bed becomes its own problem.
How to tell your new partner about things you liked with an ex.
What to do when you can’t seem to drop a fetish.
Healing steps for survivors of sexual trauma who want a healthy sex life.
What happens when you both want the other person to initiate.
And that’s just the beginning — this episode is packed with your real questions and our no-BS answers.
🔗 Links & Resources
Ready to uncover your unique intimacy blueprint? Take our free Intimacy Quiz and learn the key that drives your connection: 👉🏻 https://vmtherapy.com/5keys
Treat your partner to the best foreplay they’ve ever had 👉🏻The Ultimate Foreplay Guides http://vmtherapy.com/foreplay
Learn how to initiate with confidence 👉🏻The Art of Initiation https://vmtherapy.com/initiation
Unlock expert tools, our core course library, and more inside our membership 👉🏻 Deeper https://vmtherapy.com/deeper
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Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
03:00 – Why are guys so into swallowing?
11:04 – My partner lasts too long in bed
22:47 – How do I bring up things an ex used to do to me with my partner?
30:54 – Scheduling sex feels awkward—how do I get over that?
39:52 – How to get over a fetish
47:30 – How to reassure your partner with ED
56:19 – How SA survivors can have a great sex life
58:31 – What to do if we both want the other partner to initiate
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Pillow Talks
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
