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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
E217: Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It
Pillow Talks
1 hour 6 minutes
1 month ago
E217: Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It
You love your person… but lately… the sound of them chewing is making you cringe.
You’ve got the ICK. So what do you do? And what does it actually mean?!
This week, we’re breaking it all down for you plus what to do when your partner’s quirky habits suddenly feel like a total turnoff. 🤮
We’re also sharing your ick stories — from when baby talk stops being not cute to when dirty texts majorly backfire.
Whether you’re currently dry heaving on the inside… or worrying that you’re the one giving them the ick… this episode is full of perspective, permission, and practical advice.
💛 Here’s what we’re covering:
The real definition of an ick (and how it’s different from a red flag)
What to do when your partner’s behavior starts killing your attraction
The most common icks (bad breath, loud chewing, weird toenail habits…)
Your funniest icks from Instagram (you did NOT hold back)
🎧 And don’t worry—we’ve got even more ick stories and questions coming next week in Part 2.
🔗 Links & Resources:
EPISODE 46: The Hygiene Episode ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode46
EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode198
❤️ Ready to go deeper?
Let’s be honest, everyone has an ick or two. But if you’re feeling more disconnected, more irritable, or less turned on than you’d like… it might be time to reconnect in a more intentional way.
Inside our monthly membership Deeper, we help you explore what really turns you on —mentally, emotionally, and physically. You’ll get access to our member library of courses and guides , plus live calls, date night ideas, and support from a like-minded community.
Because when you’re truly connected… the little things don’t ick you out as much.
👉 Join Deeper today. Because intimacy is the whole point. https://vmtherapy.com/deeper
🎧 Stay connected:
📸 Follow us on Instagram ➡️ https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander
💌 Get our weekly email — with behind-the-scenes stories, expert tips, and so many sex puns.
Sign up here 👉🏻 vmtherapy.com/subscribe
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
