In this episode, we talk about self care. Not the expensive spa and luxury face mask kind, which makes both of us a little bit sick in our mouths, but the real, sometimes uncomfortable, boundary-setting kind, or the kind of self-care that sees you resist an enticing addictive pattern or get enough sleep. We talk addiction, dopamine hits, epigenetic trauma passed down through generations, and lots, lots more (just look at the list of resources).
As is often the case with home studios, there are banging noises from neighbours and an occasional kitten. It was recorded in February this year, so you'll notice a few anachronisms and you'll already know the answers to a few of the doubts we express.
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CG Jung's shadow work: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_(psychology)
HG Tudor - an 'out' psychopath who debunks how others do it and offers advice: https://narcsite.com
Debbie Ford, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/774565.The_Dark_Side_of_the_Light_Chasers
Holly Whitaker on quitting alcohol: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/45434420-quit-like-a-woman
Pleasure Unwoven 12-minute film on the science of addiction and dopamine seeking: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFcAQdEwDhY Tiny bit annoying, but fascinating nevertheless.
Melanie Tonia Evans on self-partnering: https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-self-partnering/
Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) www.adultchildren.org and a free beginners' handbook: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1zRQpAUz4HylqrFN-KjFq879XKi_5UxM9/view
Emma Watson on self-partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-UPbkWWusWg Note: It seems that while this resonated with lots of people, it was also derided in a sneery way. Fuck 'em, I say. Hollywood prefers romantic love stories to people being complete in their own right.
Lama Lena: https://lamalenateachings.com
Visit Sammy's You Tube channel about narcissism: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTDyKjEoa7HPHNQet7fsk2Q
Note: we are two fairly well informed people with opinions that we like to talk about. We're not expert voices telling things how they are, just how the are for us.
Music: New Dawn by Ruth Blake. Listen to her music at www.ruthblake.com
Logo image based on Psychopomp by Hollie Chastain. Check out her art and amazing collage book at www.holliechastain.com