Amanda Calfee - Christian Life Coach, Mama of Strong-willed & Neurodivergent Kiddos
17 episodes
6 days ago
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
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Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
16 | Meltdowns + Emotional Regulation: Becoming the Hero in Your Strong-Willed or Neurodivergent Child’s Story
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Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same cycle — your child melts down, you react, and afterward you think, “Why did I do that again?”
If so, this episode will speak straight to your heart.
We’re diving into a powerful concept called the Hero, Victim, and Villain lens and how it can completely change the way you approach parenting your strong-willed or neurodivergent child.
When meltdowns happen, it’s easy to slip into old patterns: feeling powerless (the Victim), trying to control (the Villain), or losing hope altogether. But what if you could step into a new story one where you become the Hero?
In this episode, you’ll learn how to:
Recognize when you’re parenting from fear, shame, or frustration
Understand how emotional regulation helps you respond instead of react
Rebuild peace and connection with your child, even during the hardest moments
Partner with the Holy Spirit to take your thoughts captive and renew your mind
We’ll walk through real-life examples like handling defiant behavior, PDA-style refusals, or emotional meltdowns common in kids with ADHD, Autism (ASD), or ODD in a way that protects your peace and builds lasting connection.
Because here’s the truth: you can’t always control the chaos, but you can anchor yourself in calm.You can create emotional safety for both you and your child no matter how strong-willed, neurodivergent, or overwhelmed you both feel in the moment.
Mama, this isn’t about perfection. It’s about choosing peace, walking in grace, and remembering that with God’s help… you can be the calm in your child’s storm.
Listen now to learn:
The difference between reacting in fear and responding in faith
How to identify whether you’re in the Hero, Victim, or Villain role
What emotional regulation looks like in real-life parenting moments
How to rebuild trust and connection with your child when things go wrong
Faith Anchor:
“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Galatians 5:22–23
Challenge of the Week:
This week, I want to challenge you to notice which story you’re living from when things get hard.
When your strong-willed or neurodivergent child has a meltdown, pause for a moment and ask yourself:
“Am I showing up as the Victim, the Villain, or the Hero?”
“What thought is driving my reaction right now?”
Then, take a deep breath and pray:
“Father, help me take this thought captive. Help me see my child — and myself — the way You do.”
Your only goal is awareness.You don’t have to get it perfect — just start noticing.
Because every time you pause, reflect, and invite God into the moment, you’re strengthening your emotional regulation and creating space for deeper connection with your child.
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Megan Fate Marshman Quote
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
