As therapists, we all want to be 'competent'. But it sometimes our very desire to be competent that gets in the way of allowing the client to grow and discover their own solutions.  At times the direction the client needs to go is obvious to us. However by giving the client OUR answer, we take away the clients' ability to search and discover solutions that work for them. When the client is able to make choices and take responsibility for their OWN solutions, this is when true healing and growth happens. Therefore in counter-intuitive fashion, it is often the therapist who is ‘incompetent’ by not giving the client the ‘right answers’ – but is able to guide him in the right direction – that ultimately makes the therapist competent. In the video, the client wants the therapist to confirm her BPD - Borderline diagnosis, but the therapist unexpectedly turns the tables on her.