Mary says the best things and this just rang so true for what we have all been working through these past months. We know it’s been a minute since you’ve heard our voices but sometimes all the life things just take over and we have to take a step back. But, we are always poised to pick this project back up because it is important and we all love it so much. This episode we are discussing what has been keeping us more internally focused for the last several months, because the quiet doesn’t mean we haven’t been soaking up and living our lives the best way we know how. And honestly, isn’t that the goal? Enjoy the “psychological unfurling,” as Lisa so eloquently said it, that has been our lives over the last six months. Stay to the end to find out how Mary snaps herself out of nightmares and sleep paralysis. It really is that kind of an episode.
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FODO = Fear of Disappointing Others. For Traci and Lisa this episode could also be titled “Relatable”, because, man, do we feel this one. Traci’s therapist has been helping her with this particular struggle and shared a super helpful article that we are now covering for the pod. If you want to read the full thing, and we do highly recommend it, click here. Huge thanks to the mental health professionals out there taking care of us.
We hit all the tips in the article and discuss how we use them in our own lives, the paralysis and shame that can come along with even the thought of disappointing someone else, the ways we have found to cope and overcome some of the more impairing parts of this sensation, and posit the question: What if we started caring more about disappointing our future selves than people around us? It’s a good one.
At the moment we are sitting pretty happy in discussions of things that matter to us, but we will be starting Persepolis, both volumes, soon. The other item soon to be released, will be our book list.
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Post wrap up from our previous book, we are taking time to purge before we start a new book. Lisa starts us off with a talk about the benefits of establishing bath rituals, Traci is still in happy pre-party baker mode, and Tori shares the growth that comes along with ending a relationship that didn’t work for her. If you’re curious what these settled in chats feel like, you should absolutely join us.
We have two more purge episodes coming up before we start to cover our next book Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi.
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We get a little extra loose when we have night time recordings. Before we jump into the conclusion for this amazing book, we gave Tori the room she needed to vent about her deep hatred of American football, especially since she wasn’t with us for the chapter that covered this topic. Once we’re in it, we are in it. We have a tearful moment of one mother recognizing another mother’s pain as we watch the sometimes life threatening challenges our sons face in the world that’s been built around them. Oluo faces this with all the additional challenges presented to her as a Black woman living in America. And where do we come out at the end of this book? We choose to follow Oluo with hope and a desire to find the place in this system where we can make the biggest push for change.
And that’s the end of Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, we have used this book as a leaping off point for each of us to find the things that we needed to be talking about right now. We are going to take a bit of a break from reading while our summers all unfold in various ways, but be ready for some fun purge-tastic episodes.
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And here we are at the last chapter of Mediocre, but the pace and punch of the book hasn’t slowed any. Oluo hits hard with imagery of American football players, overwhelmingly young Black men, as being seen as something between “a god and chattel.” Heartbreaking, but when the facts are examined, this sport was built for violence, for domination, and every Sunday during football season millions of people tune in to watch these elite athletes throw not just their bodies, but their hearts and souls into a game that gives them little to nothing in return.
Chapter seven in Ijeoma Oluo’s timely book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, gives us an opportunity to examine this strange and harmful paradox of exploiting Black men while also harboring a deep seeded fear of them.
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Recorded April 16, 2023
Oh man, we hit one issue after another during this recording! Like the champs we are, we’ve managed to redeem our conversation and feel it’s worth it for you to give it a listen. We didn't make it out of our music choices for the week before the conversation started touching on more vulnerable topics about alcohol, addiction, and suicide. The world is a hard place folks, let’s try to be gentle with each other. Then we get to the book.
Chapter six in Ijeoma Oluo’s timely book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, is a needed spotlight on just how terribly our society will regularly treat women of color in politics. Or anywhere else, for that matter.
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Recorded April 9, 2023
We are lucky to have our own passionate political science major in our midst and Tori’s got some of her research to share with us regarding women and the draft, in addition to the topic of the truly unjust world of women in the workforce. Just a little something spicy to add to yet another enraging example of how this all just works according to design.
Chapter five in Ijeoma Oluo’s timely book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, gives us just a slive of the many ways the workforce has never been made a place for women, especially women of color.
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What happens when we take a pause from the book to just sit and chat? A pure purge episode, of course! Lisa kicked us off with a discussion around spirituality which morphed into a discussion around the importance of speaking out, if you feel safe to, about your abortion, and Traci did. We wrapped with Tori’s trick of using little circles to help clear her head when life feels exceptionally messy, something most of us can relate to.
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Bizarre how our universities have frequently been built as havens of the elite to increase their ranks. Please note this statement is filled with sarcasm. While some of us had truly lovely experiences while working on a degree, difficulties still abound for many.
Chapter four in Ijeoma Oluo’s timely book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, hits an especially personal note with the gals this episode.
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If he wears a t-shirt saying “this is what a feminist looks like” there’s a good chance he’s still going to think he knows more, deserves more, and can take more than the people he claims to help. Just one more hurdle on the path for basic human rights for everyone.
Off we go with chapter two in Ijeoma Oluo’s timely book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America.
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Myths and legends, genocide and lies. The push to claim land in the West has been glorified with words like “manifest destiny” while the truth of the matter, no shocker here, is far crueler.
Off we go with chapter one in Ijeoma Oluo’s much needed book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America.
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When we ask ourselves the big question: How did we get here? Ijeoma Oluo offers an elegant and disturbing answer: It works according to design.
Today we begin discussing this much needed book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America. Join us next week for
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News from Mississippi - https://www.cnn.com/2023/02/27/us/jackson-mississippi-capitol-criminal-justice-invs/index.html
We take a brief pause before starting our next book to do a little purge with Traci and our newest host, Lisa. No outline, no music choices, just right down to what made you mad, sad, and glad this week. From health, to social concerns, to sex toys - we touched on several topics of importance and wrapped with a sentiment of love for the friendships we share.
Next week, we begin Ijeoma Oluo’s much needed book, Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America.
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And we are done! With this book. We have essentialism explained by our gal Mary, discussion around the exclusions of women in education, and the near barbaric treatment still experienced in women’s health care. We are in part four, Turning the World Upside Down: War on Nature, War on Women of Mona Chollet’s brilliant book, In Defense of Witches: The Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women are Still on Trial. You know you’re intrigued, so join us.
Special (quiet guest) Lisa! She sat in chat and hung out with us for this recording and she will be joining us on a more permanent basis starting with our next book, Mediocre coming out next week.
Stay with us until the end for our new segment: The Purge - Paperback style!
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We’ve got laughter and tears aplenty this episode as we reflect on what it means to age in a society that gives women an expiration date. We’re looking at you, Leonardo DeCaprio. We are in part three, The Dizzy Heights: Shattering the Image of the ‘Old Hag’ of Mona Chollet’s brilliant book, In Defense of Witches: The Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women are Still on Trial. You know you’re intrigued, so join us. Plans are in place for more things. Click the link below for all the ways to watch this project unfold with us. We can be voyeurs together.
You may think this is an olden timey saying, but you would be wrong. Mona Chollet takes us through what women who choose to remain childless face, and why the role of mother is still pushed, regardless of women actually want. We are in part two of In Defense of Witches: The Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women are Still on Trial. You know you’re intrigued, so join us. We are joined this week by our dear friend Tori, and even though we forgot to do introductions this week, we will make up for that in the near future. She’s a hell of a gal and we are thrilled she’s with us. Plans are in place for more things. Click the link below for all the ways to watch this project unfold with us. We can be voyeurs together.
Here we go. In Defense of Witches: The Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women are Still on Trial. You know you’re intrigued, so join us. This episode covers Part 1, A Life of One’s Own with a look at the fear that seems to surround unmarried women. We are joined this week by our dear friend Tori, and even though we forgot to do introductions this week, we will make up for that in the near future. She’s a hell of a gal and we are thrilled she’s with us. Plans are in place for more things. Follow the links below to watch this project unfold with us. We can all be voyeurs together.
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What would you do if your family couldn’t eat? If you had been promised someone would listen to you and you were still starving months, years later? How far do the extremes go when it’s your life on the line? Dire and extreme situations flamed the flames of the French Revolution, and in many places women led the way. Our characters find themselves facing former allies in an attempt to bring about a Republic in France. Violence reigns supreme, and things are only just beginning to swing into bloody action.
Our current book is City of Darkness, City of Light by Marge Piercy, an historical fiction novel using real people from the French Revolution as the main characters. This is one of those complex topics that lead to the kinds of conversations people from the Enlightenment period would still recognize. Liberté, Égalité, Fraternité were the words that drove the revolution, but for who and for how long?
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Character wrap-up time before the real shit starts to go down. Marge Piercy sets up our characters in their youth with imaginative glimpses into the earliest moments that may have influenced who they were becoming at the same time the revolution was unfolding.
Our current book is City of Darkness, City of Light by Marge Piercy, an historical fiction novel using real people from the French Revolution as the main characters. This is one of those complex topics that lead to the kinds of conversations people from the Enlightenment period would still recognize. Liberté, Égalité, Fraternité were the words that drove the revolution, but for who and for how long?
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E8 City of Darkness, City of Light - Cast of Characters 1
It is the characters of the book that are receiving the majority of our attention in this recording. Marge Piercy sets up our characters in their youth with imaginative glimpses into the earliest moments that may have influenced who they were becoming at the same time the revolution was unfolding.
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Our current book is City of Darkness, City of Light by Marge Piercy, an historical fiction novel using real people from the French Revolution as the main characters. This is one of those complex topics that lead to the kinds of conversations people from the Enlightenment period would still recognize. Liberté, Égalité, Fraternité were the words that drove the revolution, but for who and for how long?
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If you’re more of a video book review kind of person, we suggest you find the There’s No Bookclub YouTube channel. We encourage you to follow them as this group will be creating new projects on the regular and they have all been so fun.
Also, big love and gratitude to our mama bear company, Cozy Contorta. For all projects that have come out so far, we suggest you click here: https://linktr.ee/cozycontorta
We do not receive any income from affiliate links at this time.