Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
Ep 8 Oliver Burkeman: The 'Future-Focused' Attitude
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3 years ago
Ep 8 Oliver Burkeman: The 'Future-Focused' Attitude
Do you get anxious about the future? Are you obsessed with your to-do list? Is organising, scheduling, living for next week your thing? Then this is the episode for you. Oliver Burkeman's new book saved me from myself! I had so much fun chatting to him all about the 'future-focused' attitude and the 'when-I-finally' mind. We dissect PAGE 126 of his New York Times bestselling book, 'Four Thousand Weeks: Time and How To Use It'. 4000 weeks is roughly 80 years, which is hopefully how long we've got on the planet. The central question of the book is how do we make these weeks count? We discuss anxiety, tolerating a level of uncertainty and accepting that most things do not go to plan and never go perfectly. Oliver's book taught me to relax, trust myself and give up trying to get all my ducks in a row - things will go wrong, the to-do list will always be never-ending and that's ok. I love this book and appreciate Oliver's tips for staying in the here and now.
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Four Thousand Weeks - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/four-thousand-weeks-the-smash-hit-sunday-times-bestseller-that-will-change-your-life/9781847924018
Cal Newport's book - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/deep-work-rules-for-focused-success-in-a-distracted-world/9780349411903
Bruce Tift psychotherapist – http://www.brucetift.com
Laura Vanderkam - https://lauravanderkam.com
CS Lewis’ sermon - https://www.cslewis.com/learning-in-war-time/
Insight timer – https://insighttimer.com
Ten Percent Happier - https://www.tenpercent.com
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Oliver on Twitter - @oliverburkeman
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
