Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
Ep 5 Clover Stroud: Facing Death and Sisterly Love
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Ep 5 Clover Stroud: Facing Death and Sisterly Love
I absolutely loved chatting to Clover for this episode. Clover Stroud is an author who does not shy away from pinning down exactly how she feels. Clover's latest book, 'The Red of My Blood', is about the sudden and shocking death of her sister Nell. Nell was an artist and the founder of the extraordinary Gifford's Circus. In this conversation Clover unpicks the trauma and unbearable grief that hit in 2020 and her fierce determination to normalize death for her kids, highlight how much care and kindness needs to be offered to anyone grieving and to honour her sister by speaking openly about death. Clover's courage is huge and her willingness to share how she survived her grief will no doubt help so many people, she never fails to find the beauty and colour even in the hardest of times. This book is a must-read and PAGE 113 shows the deep love Clover feels for her sister.
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Clover on Twitter – @cloverstroud
Clover on Instagram - @clover.stroud
Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
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Links
Clover's book, The Red of my Blood - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/the-red-of-my-blood-a-death-and-life-story/9780857527738
CS Lewis - A Grief Observed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/a-grief-observed-readers-edition/9780571310876
Joan Didion - The Year of Magical Thinking https://uk.bookshop.org/books/the-year-of-magical-thinking/9780008485122
NHS advice on grief and loss- https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/grief-bereavement-loss/
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
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