Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
Ep 4 Caitlin Moran: Eating Disorders and Parenting
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56 minutes 31 seconds
3 years ago
Ep 4 Caitlin Moran: Eating Disorders and Parenting
TW // References to suicide, eating disorders and self-harm.//
Caitlin Moran is a hilarious author, scriptwriter and Times columnist famous for skewering the patriarchy. She wrote the seminal feminist manifesto 'How To Be A Woman' and her latest memoir, 'More Than A Woman', is a celebration of middle-age, taking on the joys of 'maintenance sex' in long-term relationships, the overwhelming to-do lists, and looking after everyone but yourself.
For this episode I picked PAGE 204 of 'More Than A Woman', which details how Caitlin learned to help her teenage daughter when she was anxious, depressed and suffering with an eating disorder. Caitlin openly admits that when you have a child self-harming and suffering with an eating disorder every parenting tactic you've ever used is useless. She reflects on how growing up she was given a stigmatised view of mental health compared to the way her teenagers discuss mental health without shame and embarrassment. Here, Caitlin shares what she now knows about how to respond and listen to someone with a mental illness, the books that helped her family (see the Eva Musby links below), the script she followed word for word and how surviving the unimaginable has changed her. Parents can feel so helpless and alone in these situations, there is no manual for how to parent a mentally ill child, so Caitlin's honesty in discussing something so personal is much appreciated and extremely helpful.
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Links:
BEAT - https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk
Eva Musby - https://anorexiafamily.com/?v=79cba1185463
Anorexia and Other Eating Disorders by Eva Musby - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Anorexia-other-Eating-Disorders-compassionate/dp/0993059805/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LZ8NS8GAGYE&keywords=eva+musby&qid=1645090842&sprefix=eve+musby%2Caps%2C301&sr=8-1
NHS Eating Disorder support - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
NHS Self-harm support - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/self-harm/
Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.org
NHS Suicidal thoughts information and support - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/help-for-suicidal-thoughts/
Mental Health and Self-Harm Information and Support: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1NGvFrTqWChr03LrYlw2Hkk/information-and-support-mental-health-self-harm
Eating Disorder links on the BBC Action Line website: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/2DRkg4JC7SLT3B7hlrn6DKN/information-and-support-eating-disorders
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Social Media:
Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @abbyhollick
Caitlin on Twitter - @caitlinmoran
Caitlin on Instagram - @mscaitlinmoran
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Arifa Akbar’s sister Fauzia died in 2016 from tuberculosis. Fauzia experienced night sweats, her lungs hurt, and her face began to swell; despite these signs the doctors at The Royal Free Hospital in London were baffled and she died of a brain haemorrhage. In Arifa’s stunning memoir ‘Consumed’ she investigates how a leading hospital could have missed this ancient but curable disease. Here, Arifa discusses her and Fauzia’s complicated love for one another, from best friends in their teens to years of estrangement. The sisters were pitted against each other and, whilst Arifa was her Father’s favourite, Fauzia had a totally different childhood under the same roof, experiencing emotional cruelty from their Dad. Arifa is brutally honest about the impact that this childhood trauma and Fauzia’s paralysing depression and eating disorder had on them, pulling them apart for years. PAGE 112 looks at how the mistrust had set in but how, ultimately, the sisters were reconciled and all the guilt, rage and pain fell away as Arifa dashed to A&E to be by her sister’s side. This is a deep discussion about the roles parents ascribe to their kids, how families create their own mythologies and how sibling misunderstandings can become so muddy it’s hard to see who started the argument and what it’s even about.
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Abby on Twitter and Instagram - @AbbyHollick
Arifa on Twitter - @Arifa_Akbar
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Consumed - https://uk.bookshop.org/books/consumed-in-search-of-my-sister-shortlisted-for-the-costa-biography-award-2021/9781529347555
NHS supportive links for Tuberculosis, Eating disorders and Depression:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/tuberculosis-tb/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/eating-disorders/overview/
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression/
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Page is hosted and produced by Abby Hollick for Good Tape. To contact us, email abby@goodtape.org
Sound Engineers: Hunter Charlton and Chris Sharp
Original Music: Paddy Gervers and Rob Sell for Torch and Compass
Graphic Designer: Tim Hughes
Web Support: Daniel Benoliel
