<p><span >In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski delve into the intricate topic of manipulation, focusing on the aspect of blame. They discuss how manipulators use blame subtly to condition others into accepting responsibility for things that are not their fault. Robin shares her personal experience with a utility company's customer service representative to illustrate the pervasive nature of unwarranted apologies. They emphasize the importance of not internalizing blame and using assertive language to protect oneself from manipulative tactics. The discussion also explores alternative ways to express empathy without taking on blame and practical advice for managing relationships with manipulators. The episode aims to provide insights and tools for listeners to stand firm against manipulative behaviors.</span></p><div><br>Topics<p></p><p></p></div><div>00:38 Introducing the Topic: Blame<br>01:13 The Subtlety of Blame in Manipulation<br>04:16 Real-Life Example: Utility Company Incident<br>08:29 The Power of Language in Manipulation<br>12:56 Empathy vs. Pity in Communication<br>16:30 Conditioned to Take Blame<br>16:36 Personal Anecdotes of Blame<br>17:14 Absorbing Stress and Responsibility<br>17:36 Client's Experience with Blame<br>18:48 Mindset Shift: Not Internalizing Blame<br>20:39 Strategies to Refuse Blame<br>23:06 People Pleasers and Contempt<br>23:27 Navigating Blame in Relationships<br>30:06 Concluding Thoughts on Blame</div>