I'm a life coach who came out later in life as gay. Join me as I talk with others who’ve made this LGBTQ+ coming out journey later in their lives to become who they really are.
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I'm a life coach who came out later in life as gay. Join me as I talk with others who’ve made this LGBTQ+ coming out journey later in their lives to become who they really are.
Brian Janes - came out after 26 years of marriage, now finding his place in his new community
Out Late With David
31 minutes
1 year ago
Brian Janes - came out after 26 years of marriage, now finding his place in his new community
Summary
Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 49 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After years of therapy and self-help, his wife eventually told him she wanted a divorce. Brian knew he was gay from a young age but didn't know how to embrace it. He suppressed his true self and lived in fear of being found out. After his divorce, he made the decision to come out and started a podcast for men coming out later in life.
Suppressing your true self can lead to frustration and strain in relationships. Coming out later in life can be a difficult and lonely process. Embracing your true self can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling life. Sharing your story and being vulnerable can help others going through similar experiences.
Titles
The Journey of Coming Out Later in Life Embracing Your True Self and Finding Personal Growth
Sound Bites "Don't Let Your Wonder Turn Into Closure" "Here I Am, a Proud Gay Man" "You're Not Alone, We're All Out Here"
Chapters (audio)
00:00 Introduction: Brian James' Journey 01:15 The Love and Connection of Marriage 03:11 The Strain and Separation in Divorce 04:09 Suppressing Identity and Fear of Coming Out 08:27 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery 14:13 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children 18:12 Starting the Podcast: Coming Inside Out 23:09 Loneliness and Struggles After Coming Out 28:14 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance 30:31 Conclusion: Forgiving and Loving Yourself
Chapters (video)
00:00 Introduction and Background 03:04 Suppressing True Self in a Marriage 07:50 The Decision to Come Out 10:43 The Power of Wonder and Curiosity 13:36 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children 17:23 Exploring the New World 19:17 Regrets and Self-Kindness 21:2 0Loneliness and Self-Discovery 24:19 Starting the Podcast 27:37 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance 29:54 Summary and Closing
I'm a life coach who came out later in life as gay. Join me as I talk with others who’ve made this LGBTQ+ coming out journey later in their lives to become who they really are.
