Episode 2 – Alone, Not Lonely: 50 Years of Finding My Own Path
Welcome back to Out Here, where life is solo, simple, and rural. In this deeply personal episode, Tom reflects on the first 50 years of his life — the triumphs, betrayals, missteps, and meaningful choices that led him to live alone by the lake in Northern Ontario.
He opens up about being the odd one out from a young age, why conforming never worked for him, the painful but powerful lessons learned from broken trust, and the freedom of embracing a "sigma male" identity.
Tom also discusses the difference between being alone and being lonely, the importance of finding joy instead of chasing fleeting happiness, and how choosing solitude has brought him healing, clarity, and purpose.
🔸 Reflections on high school alienation and college camaraderie
🔸 A raw look at betrayal, forgiveness, and emotional survival
🔸 Plant medicine, personal healing, and future plans in psychology
🔸 Joy vs. happiness, solitude vs. loneliness
🔸 A powerful case for forging your own life — no permission needed
This isn’t a midlife crisis. This is a midlife awakening.
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