What's the worst thing that's happened from asking for help? Probably nothing. So why does it feel so terrifying?Here's what nobody tells you: there are three tiers of asking for help. Get the level wrong and things can get uncomfortable fast. Your inner circle, close friends, professional contacts—the rules change at each level.We get into why we've lost the built-in communities we used to rely on (spoiler: we used to have villages, now we have LinkedIn messages), why middle-aged people with mortgages are the least spiritually free, and how asking for help got tangled up with self-worth for both of us. Plus: what to do when people ask YOU for help and you're already drowning.