Ono (@TheOnoZone) talks to Yara about being married to an Adult Improver as a non-chess player. Yara is Ono's wife and they share life, parenthood and a chess business (TheOnoZone) together. Yara + Ono talk about their experiences with chess in their family, as well as general emotion regulation, shame and community in chess.
On this episode: (01:54) What Yara loves most about chess
(02:33) Why Yara doesn't play chess
(03:30) What it's like being married to a chess player
(05:15) When Ono got beaten by Yara
(07:11) Rating goals - good or bad?
(13:01) Should all chess coaches be masters?
(16:56) Striving for excellence vs perfection
(18:35) Self-improvement for chess improvement
(21:32) How to overcome shame in chess
(25:23) Why community kills shame
(28:47) Why does chess make you feel so much
(30:56) Are you super smart when you play chess?
(34:18) Addiction + other coping mechanisms
(38:40) Compassionate chess improvement
(41:15) Does emotion belong at the chessboard?
(45:07) Why you should not repress shame
(46:43) Why your life shows up in your chess
(49:17) Ono's chess journey in 2023
(54:40) Ono's rating goals + rating
(58:03) Ono's birthday request to you
(58:50) Ono does not want his son to play chess
(01:01:56) Yara's wish: happy chess improvement
Come talk with Yara + Ono in the Zoom Hangout on Friday, December 1st @19:30 UTC! Sign up for the free 7-day trial on www.patreon.com/TheOnoZone to get the Zoom link.
Episode links:
Brené Brown (specifically her TED talk on vulnerability)
Gabor Maté (specifically his book on addiction: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts)
Kristin Neff - Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Patrick Rothfuss - The Name of the Wind (Ono’s favourite book)
I Hate Winning (TheOnoZone blog)
Alex Crompton on spaced repetition
Ben Johnson Came To My (Chess) Birthday Party (TheOnoZone blog)
Has Chess Ruined My Life? (TheOnoZone blog)
Contact Yara:
If you're a female entrepreneur wanting to start or grow your online business, you can email Yara at yara.vossebelt@gmail.com (first Zoom call is free).
Follow TheOnoZone: Patreon www.patreon.com/TheOnoZone | Twitter @TheOnoZone | Lichess @TheOnoZone | info@theonozone.com | www.TheOnoZone.com
On the website, you can download a free Study Plan Template + Wordy Chess Book List, as well as find out more about Ono's Adult Improver chess coaching + book a free trial lesson with Ono.
Thanks to TheOnoZone Patrons who supported this episode: Laura Holmes | Marcus Buffett | Dan Bock | Dawn Lawson | Glen G | Mikey Wells | Michael Shpizner | Karen W | Gregory C | BowiE | Stefan K | Ché Martin | Andrew M | Ben Johnson
Thanks to my wife Yara for coming on the podcast, Ché Martin for creating the legendary intro, and Zach Shpizner for applying his audio engineering skills to this episode.
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