We’re going back to the basics again this week and chatting about self-regulation! Unfortunately, we can’t throw tantrums in the grocery store (I mean, you can, but...), so most of us have learned to self-regulate, or simply push things down — which is NOT what we want to do. So today, Maryellen gives everyone a refresher course on how to get up close and personal with our feelings and tried and true techniques to start exercising self-regulation. She dives into:  What is self-regulation?   Talked a lot about with little kids, not enough with adults  Are we actually learning techniques or just learning to hide our true feelings?   How do we actually self-regulate?   How do we know when to do these self-regulating techniques?  How do we know we are self-regulating in a way that’s productive?  The first step to regulating ourselves is recognizing what's going on   Start to learn how you respond to your feelings  HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired; if you are too much of any of these, it’s going to be more of a trigger   We have become so used to functioning when we haven’t had our basic needs met, but that is not a badge of honor   When we have to bite our tongue in a moment, it’s important to remember to come back and address the feeling  If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow us on Instagram @okayishpodcast. To submit questions or stories, send us a DM!  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.