When your child says things that hurt—or acts out inways that feel personal—it’s easy to let those moments sink deep.
You love them, you give everything you have, and hearing “I hate you!” or watching a meltdown unfold can break your heart.
But what if those words and behaviors aren’t about youat all?
In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mompodcast, host Shannon Urquiola shares how to separate your child’s struggle from your sense of self. You’ll learn how to respond without taking their behaviors personally, and why doing so changes everything—for you andfor them.
Shannon shares her own experiences with her son Jordan,plus a story from one of our members that inspired this episode, to remind you that your child’s words in dysregulation are not reflections of yourparenting—they’re reflections of overwhelm.
You’ll also learn her simple P.A.C.E. Yourself tool tohelp you stay calm in hard moments: Pause your story, attend to safety, co-regulate, and explain later.
Member Bonus: Your printable “P.A.C.E. Yourself” visual guide is now available inside the Member Portal and in the FILES section of the Village Facebook group.
And in case you haven’t heard… Shannon is writing abook!Loving Through The Unexpected: Finding Strength, Surrender, and Acceptance Parenting Autistic Children is an honest, hopeful look at what it means to find peace and purpose when motherhood doesn’t go as planned.Follow us on social media for updates, sneak peeks, and release details!
🎙️Whether your child is yelling, refusing, or saying things that sting—this episode will help you hold steady, find compassion, and remember… It’s not about you.
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